Unoffendable is a book that explains how useless is to be offended and how possible it is for us to live without being offended.
I’ll add some snippets of the best parts I liked from the book and I will add the pages too but you should know that I read it from Kindle so those pages might not be accurate.
Besides that, if you want to get the book, here it is on Amazon:
Let me start by saying that Brant Hansen, who is the author of Unoffendable is also a radio host as you would see in the book. But also he’s a writer and a speaker. He has a podcast show called “The Brant and Sherri Oddcast” with millions of downloads.
Now that you got an idea of Brant, let’s get into the best parts of his book Unoffendable.
Unoffendable – How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better
The book is 198 pages which is short for the books I usually read. So, If you can, you should read it. Hope these snippets will show how good this book is.
The meaning of forgiveness
“Grace isn’t for the deserving. Forgiving means surrendering your claim to resentment and letting go of anger.” – p.6
You don’t have to keep anger
“Anger will happen; we’re human. But we can’t keep it.” – p.8 | Unoffendable
You don’t need to get angry to fight injustice
“People say we have to get angry to fight injustice, but I’ve noticed that the best police officers don’t do their jobs in anger. The best soldiers don’t function out of anger.” – p.8
Brant shows that those who get angry are the ones that don’t do any good for the problem, actually, they make it worst.
“Often, we confuse the two, thinking that if we’re not angry about an unjust situation, we’re simply accepting it. That’s completely false.” – p.94
“Anger and action are two very different things, and confusing the two actually hurts our efforts to set things right.” – p.94
“So often it’s true: one person is angry—but it’s someone else who takes action.” – p.95
Being offended is exhausting
“Being offended is a tiring business. Letting things go gives you energy.” – p.12 | Unoffendable
We create our reality
“Instead of changing our beliefs to match reality, we often just rearrange reality, in our heads, to match what we want.” – p.16
We cannot be trusted. We cannot know why people do the things they do, neither we can tell what is right and what is wrong. Because when we think that we’re brilliant actually we’re clueless.
“Oh yes, the heart is deceptive. And that calls for humility above all else, because my heart isn’t deceptive because it fools other people. It’s deceptive because it fools me.” – p.16
Don’t be shocked
“Doesn’t happen. Jesus isn’t shocked by self-centeredness. Neither is He scandalized by others’ moral behavior. Ever. He knows how we are. He knows how the human heart works.” – p.31 | Unoffendable
Jesus knows how we are and He is not shocked by our nature. That’s why He is not offended by what we do.
“Perhaps a big part of being less offendable is seeing the human heart for what it is: Untrustworthy. Unfaithful. Prone to selfishness. Got it. Now we don’t have to be shocked.” – p.32
“You really can’t believe politicians would lie? You can’t believe a preacher would cheat on his wife? You can’t believe someone would try to steal from you? You can’t believe a neighbor would set off fireworks at 2:00 a.m.? You can’t believe a world leader would tyrannize his own people? Are we going to live in perpetual shock at the nature of man?” – p.33
The Good side is exceptional, not the bad side
“War is not exceptional; peace is. Worry is not exceptional; trust is. Decay is not exceptional; restoration is. Anger is not exceptional; gratitude is. Selfishness is not exceptional; sacrifice is. Defensiveness is not exceptional; love is. And judgmentalism is not exceptional… But grace is.” – p.40
Gratitude vs. Anger
“When we recognize our unsurprising fallenness and keep our eyes joyfully open for the glorious exceptions, we’re much less offendable. Why? Because that’s the thing about gratitude and anger: they can’t coexist. It’s one or the other.” – p.44 | Unoffendable
In other words, if you’re getting too angry is because you’re not being grateful.
We need a church that encourages restfulness in Christ
“American church culture, generally speaking, does not encourage this sort of restfulness. Quite the opposite, actually. Instead of inviting people out of the exhausting storm of busy lives, we add to their loads. We give them even more to do, or prompt them to feel guilty about what they’re not doing.” – p.58
If there’s not that church is because we’re not being that church. Be the person where people find rest instead of guilt.
It’s not your job
“I was just doing what immature humans do, and that is thinking it’s my job to put people in their place.” – p.72 | Unoffendable
Myth of Righteous Anger
“The myth of “righteous anger” actually impedes the taking of action, because it lets us congratulate ourselves for a feeling, rather than for doing something.” – p.95
It’s because we don’t trust God
“We hold on to worry because we don’t trust God. We hold on to anger because we don’t trust God. We feel threatened because we’re insecure, and we’re insecure because–surprise!–we don’t trust God.” – p.111 | Unoffendable
What you do is what matters
“After all, what we believe isn’t what we say we believe; it’s what we do.” – p.128
It only reveals your ego
“If you’re constantly being hurt, offended, or angered, you should honestly evaluate your inflamed ego.” – p.184 | Unoffendable
Becoming Unoffendable is your choice
“When we choose, ahead of time–before conversations, before meeting, before our day begins–to be unoffendable, we’re simply choosing humility.” – p.191
“When you are headed into a stressful social situation, with difficult, offensive people, and you decide in advance, “I’m not going to let these people offend me; I’m forgiving them in advance,” you are dying to yourself. You are sacrificing yourself on their behalf. You are making yourself less. You’re willingly giving up your own interests and desires, because of your conviction about who Jesus is.” – p.191
Review of Unoffendable
Hope you liked the snippets, I did. This book is easy to read and since it’s short it won’t take much time. Yet, it has life-changing content.
Because of that my review is: 4.8/5
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